What’s your most important asset?
What’s your most important asset?
Musings of a Relationship Counsellor – Nov 2019
OK… it’s a slightly salacious headline. But I’ve got your attention – so hang in there.
It has now been a while since I unhitched the rope and set sail on this counselling odyssey.
I’ll be honest, it hasn’t been easy, but I have been amazed and privileged to share and help people through some of their deepest, darkest times.
One thing that has particularly surprised me is the number of people from all sections of the community seeking help with their relationships.
First things first – this is great. In most people’s cases your relationship is the most important asset in your life. So yes, get help if you need it.
Unfortunately, the shame and stigma that goes with seeking relationship help means that couples often come to me after years of unhappiness.
Sometimes couples find themselves ‘tolerating’ the other partner.
A good deal of the time couples find themselves slowly drifting away from their partner until they reach a point where they almost feel like strangers. They are frozen and unable to express their true emotions with each other.
We all have needs. And if you are in a relationship, it is most likely that you have a need to be loved and to be understood. But that doesn’t just happen by coasting along not putting in any effort.
It takes work.
But you will be rewarded. You will be rewarded with the relationship you always wanted and your most important asset in life will only become more valuable.